English for Manager One-to-One Meetings: Questions and Scripts

A useful one-to-one is a two-way work conversation with no surprises: review progress, surface obstacles, exchange evidence-based feedback, discuss support and development, and finish with agreed actions. The manager should not spend the whole meeting delivering updates that could have been written.

This guide covers ordinary workplace communication. Performance procedures, disciplinary matters, health information, reasonable adjustments, grievances, safeguarding, and legal rights must follow the relevant policy and authorised support route.

Key takeaways

• Invite the employee to shape the agenda.
• Review previous actions before creating new ones.
• Ask open questions, then listen without preparing the next speech.
• Give feedback about observable work and impact, not personality.
• Discuss workload, support, and development as well as output.
• Record agreed actions, owners, dates, and the next checkpoint.

In this guide: meeting map | prepare | open | progress | feedback | workload | development | difficult moments | close | practice | FAQ

One-to-one meeting map

CIPD recommends co-creating the agenda, removing distractions, acknowledging successes, checking wellbeing, learning, relationships, productivity, and impact, asking open questions, and agreeing next steps. Acas describes regular check-ins as part of performance management and recommends written records shared with the employee.

Do not force every meeting through the same script when an urgent employee concern needs time.

Prepare a shared agenda

Send or agree a short agenda early enough for both people to prepare. A practical template is:

1. Employee priority.
2. Previous actions.
3. Progress and achievements.
4. Blockers, workload, and support.
5. Feedback in both directions.
6. Development.
7. Actions and next date.

Manager preparation:

• Review previous commitments.
• Gather accurate examples and evidence.
• Identify decisions you can make in the meeting.
• Check relevant policy before raising a formal concern.
• Protect enough private, uninterrupted time.

Employee preparation:

• Note outcomes, not only activity.
• Identify one obstacle and one possible solution.
• Bring questions or support requests.
• Note one development priority.
• Correct any inaccurate previous action record.

Open the one-to-one

Set a collaborative frame:

"We have thirty minutes for your work, support, and development. I have two items, but I would like to start with what matters most to you. Before that, shall we check the actions from our last meeting?"

Useful openings:

• "What would make this conversation useful today?"
• "Is there anything urgent you want to add to the agenda?"
• "How have things been since we last met?"
• "What is taking most of your attention right now?"
• "Which topic should have the most time?"

Do not ask "How are you?" and immediately continue without space for an answer. If the employee shares sensitive information, follow privacy, support, and escalation requirements.

Review progress and priorities

Ask for outcomes and learning:

• "What result are you most pleased with?"
• "What moved forward since our last meeting?"
• "Which objective is on track, at risk, or unclear?"
• "What did not go as expected?"
• "What have you learned that changes the plan?"
• "Which priority needs a decision from me?"

Turn vague updates into specific understanding:

Use project status-update English when the conversation needs a clearer work summary.

Give clear feedback

Use Observation, Impact, Standard, Question, Agreement:

"The last two reports arrived after the agreed Tuesday deadline. That delayed review and left the client with less preparation time. The expected handoff is Tuesday at noon. What is causing the delay, and what support or change would make that achievable?"

For positive feedback, keep the evidence:

"In yesterday's client call, you summarised the disagreement and confirmed each action owner. That prevented a second meeting and gave the team a usable decision record. Please keep using that close."

Avoid:

• "You are careless."
• "Your attitude is bad."
• "Everyone thinks..."
• "You always..."
• Saving several months of surprise criticism for one meeting.

Acas guidance says objectives should be fair, specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound. Use the organisation's actual process rather than inventing an informal performance plan.

Ask for upward feedback

Managers can make feedback easier by asking a bounded question:

• "What could I do more of to help you work effectively?"
• "What should I do less of?"
• "Which decision from me arrives too slowly?"
• "Where are my instructions unclear?"
• "What makes it difficult to raise a risk with me?"

Do not defend immediately. Clarify the example, summarise what you heard, and state what you will test or change. If you disagree, use polite disagreement language without punishing the employee for answering.

Discuss workload and support

Workload language should connect demand to capacity:

Employee:

"Three urgent requests were added this week. Completing all three by Friday would remove the planned quality review. Can we rank them and move one deadline?"

Manager:

"Let us list the work and available time. Which two outcomes have the highest impact, and what can be deferred or reassigned?"

Useful questions:

• "Which task is consuming more time than planned?"
• "What dependency is outside your control?"
• "What should stop if this new priority starts?"
• "Do you need a decision, information, training, or additional capacity?"
• "What risk are we currently accepting?"

Use deadline-negotiation English when date, scope, and resources need an explicit trade-off.

Discuss learning and development

Move from broad ambition to one next capability:

• "Which task do you want to handle more independently?"
• "What skill would make the next quarter easier?"
• "Where do you need practice, observation, or feedback?"
• "Which assignment would provide useful evidence of growth?"
• "Who could you shadow or learn from?"
• "How will we know the development activity helped?"

Example action:

"You will lead the first fifteen minutes of the November client review. I will observe the opening, decision framing, and action summary, then give feedback the same day."

A course title alone is not a development plan. Connect learning to a work behavior and review date.

Handle difficult moments

The employee becomes quiet

"I notice we have paused. Would it help to take a moment, hear the example again, or continue this part after you have reviewed the information?"

Do not fill every silence or demand an immediate emotional response.

The employee disagrees with the evidence

"Let us compare the records. Which example is inaccurate or missing context?"

A new serious concern appears

"Thank you for raising it. I need to follow the appropriate process rather than solve it casually in this meeting. I will explain the next step and who will be involved."

The manager does not know

"I do not know the policy answer. I will check with HR and respond by 3 p.m. tomorrow rather than guess."

The conversation becomes personal

"Let us return to the observed work, impact, and support needed. We should not make claims about character."

Close with actions

Read the record aloud:

"To confirm, you will send the revised priority list by Wednesday noon. I will decide the scope by 3 p.m. and arrange access to the training environment. We will review the client-call practice next Friday. Is anything recorded differently from your understanding?"

Each action needs:

• Specific outcome.
• Owner.
• Date.
• Dependency or support.
• Review point.

Share the record according to policy. Do not record sensitive speculation or promise confidentiality you cannot provide.

Three complete mini-scripts

Progress-focused meeting

"What result are you most pleased with? What is now at risk? Which decision do you need from me? Let us finish with one action each and review them Friday."

Workload-focused meeting

"Which tasks exceed the available time? If the new request becomes first priority, what should stop or move? I will confirm the ranking today so you are not carrying three conflicting deadlines."

Development-focused meeting

"Which capability would help you take the next level of responsibility? What assignment would let you practise it safely? Let us define one observation point and a date for feedback."

Seven-day practice plan

Review talk time, question quality, listening, specificity, and whether the close created usable actions.

What real non-native managers commonly report

Recurring difficulties include over-preparing a manager speech, avoiding feedback because the wording feels risky, and losing control of dates and actions while listening. A small set of conversation functions is more useful than a long script.

Managers also report worrying that direct questions sound unfriendly. Tone matters, but clarity is part of respect. A specific question with time to answer usually feels fairer than indirect hints whose meaning appears later in a performance decision.

Where SpeakShark fits

SpeakShark can role-play an employee who disagrees, becomes quiet, raises workload, or asks for development. It cannot interpret HR policy, manage a real case, or store confidential employee information safely by default.

Use fictional scenarios without names, records, health information, allegations, or identifiable work details.

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• Job-interview role-plays
• Daily speaking drills
• Free speaking-level test
• Overcome fear of speaking
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Start a fictional one-to-one, review whether questions were open and actions specific, then repeat with an unexpected concern.

How we researched this guide

We used current Acas performance-management and probation-review guidance, CIPD's one-to-one recommendations, and published public-sector performance policies for records, support, development, and regular feedback. The scripts are original fictional examples and do not replace workplace policy, HR support, or legal advice.

Sources

1. Acas performance management, updated June 23, 2026 and reviewed October 21, 2026 for regular check-ins, fair objectives, support, and shared written records.
2. CIPD guidance on more human management, reviewed for co-created agendas, open questions, check-ins, development, and next steps.
3. Acas probation review meetings, reviewed for preparation, two-way conversation, support, clarity, and records.
4. Registers of Scotland performance development policy, reviewed for regular one-to-ones, continuous check-ins, feedback, development, and HR support.

FAQ

Confirm the purpose and time, invite the employee's priority, and review previous actions before adding the manager's topics.

Ask open questions about outcomes, obstacles, workload, relationships, wellbeing, development, and what support or decision the employee needs.

State observed behavior, evidence, impact, expected standard, and next step. Ask for the employee's perspective and agree support and review timing.

Name the issue, evidence, impact, and requested action. Use the appropriate formal route when the type or seriousness of concern requires it.

Follow policy. Record agreed actions, support, owners, and dates, share the record where required, and protect confidentiality and data appropriately.

Practise each function separately, then run unpredictable fictional meetings and review listening, question quality, evidence, and action clarity as well as grammar.

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